: I'm not referring to the victim consenting to the rapist, but to someone who they actually love, and want to have sex with. I never blame the victim at all for anything,not having the energy/heart to fight off a rapist is not consent. You can't "consent" to a rapist because that is oxymoronic. Rape is being unwillingly forced into sexual activity. I've always seen consent as purposely allowing someone access for mutual pleasure. There is a major difference in "liking it rough" and rape
I think you’re starting to get the point. just to make it clear though “consent is sexy” is was brought up by white, middle-class, sex-posi feminist who thought this would raise awareness, when really it’s offensive to it’s victims. They never used it for people who loved each other. but you are right, you can’t give consent to a rapist, which is the problem I’m trying to address. “liking it rough” and rape sort of do fall into the same category, especially if it does involve fetishes. but if I continue to talk about this I honestly go into “stereotypes and sex”, problems with in the porn industry, and sex work.
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